Definition of birthday: the day of a person's birth. Gosh, it's taken me 50 years to come to truly appreciate and understand the true in depth meaning of this special day.
For the longest time, I guess my introverted and shy personality never got into the spirit of my own birthdays. Growing up, it was parties with the neighborhood kids where I was the youngest. My parents worked hard to provide the cake and ice cream, i'm assuming. I never had the kind of parities our kids are having nowadays. Did we appreciate what we had back then? Probably not
Then I kinda forgot about it during my later teen years. Then off to college for birthday ragers. Then there was a lull while being single for many years after that, it seemed insignificant, whether it was mine or others.
But not until recently til I got married, my wife and her continued surprises pulled a good one surprising me with the best party anyone could ask for. But five years ago, I started to suffer from all these cardiac setbacks which put a strain on our family both emotionally and financially. Thankfully, i'm blessed to still be here and under great medical care. It's still ongoing so it's another reason to be thankful for life each and every day. Like the quote from the Prince song: Let's Go Crazy...'Today, we are gathered here to get through this thing called life!'. I kinda found deep meaning into it regardless if he focuses on the afterlife, too. But if you think about it, we are all put on this earth for a purpose. And even though he goes on to saying that Life is a mighty long time, it could also be short. Who's to say when our time is up? Which religion will dictate the right path to believe and follow? We need to get through each day with vigor and vitality, no matter what it takes. When stress comes along, learn how to deal with it. To each, his own.
History speaking, it all started when she surprised me with a trip to Maui. Then came the Elton John concert. Now this, despite her not listening to me as I told her I didn't want anything and no surprises. In other words: save your money. Just simply staying put at home behind the grill with family would have sufficed. But no, as you see my wife's and I's views on money are different as a lot of you know....LOL. But that's a whole 'nother story.
What really put things into perspective for me was reading somewhere that even though you may not care about your own birthday, it was one of the biggest days in your parents lives, like how we treasure the births of our own children now. So what, do we have to be reminded of this? Evidently so! I need to not only enjoy my reason for being here, but I also need to appreciate the 'how' I got here part and let my mother know how much she's appreciated and how she busted her ass long ago to make ends meet in order to care and raise us four boys. I was probably the easiest child, there's more to be thankful for!
After several cardiac episodes during spring break of this year, I took some time off from work to give my heart a rest and to reflect on life. Upon my return, I showed a short video to my students showing them what I was suffering from and why I was out. And then I reminded them that my job as their PE teacher was to teach them how to take care of their physical well-beings and after they leave us, they'll understand at least a little about how to go about minimizing unhealthy risk factors. I shared my opinion on how life is unique in the sense that no matter how well we may be in 'shape,' life can be cut short at anytime. And yet, there are unhealthy people who live for long periods of time. So I just leave them with saying that all you can do is try your best to enjoy your lives, take care your bodies, eat healthy, easy on the drugs and alcohol, be kind to everyone, and lastly, pray like heck to live a long and healthy life!
So on this day, the 19th of April, I'd like to thank my wife and my mother and to all of my friends and family who attended my party from both near and far and got to reminisce about hanabata days!
I'm just happy to get up everyday to happy or screaming kids and making it through this thing we call 'Life!'